Gay & Lesbian
Some men just wanna have fun, it seems
However one is open-minded and accepting of anything in the wide spectrum of human sexology, there is always that exclamation-mark moment when one is confronted with certain predilections.
This was the case when a blossoming transsexual friend of mine revealed to me while serving tea in her damp, cluttered flat in central Beyoglu that she happens to be a top or the active one during sex and not, as one would associate the likes of her, as being on the receiving end of a partner's wanton lust.
This despite her outward feminine attributes, which obviously were brought about by a recently undergone requisite pre-operational stage of hormonal treatment and breast implants. And going by the exotic moniker of Soraya.
"Oh really?," I managed to squeal a suppressed incredulity. In a flash the revelation unhinged me not so much by its content - I thought I'd seen and heard all manners of kinks and quirks having lived in some of the world's biggest capitals - but by it being uncommon in the sexual scheme of things in these parts.
I have more-than-once mentioned here that due to the local social and religious constraints in the natural interactions between the sexes, some Turkish men often indulge in homosexual practices with nary an afterthought of labeling them as such but merely as some means to achieve sexual gratification. These are the popularly if discretely accepted notions of the "laco" and "lubunya" , the former being the active, usually straight-identifying partner and the latter, passive gays and those acting the female roles.
Having been part of the local GLBT scenes as observer and commentator for some time now, I have known this to be a fact of life hereabouts, to the point that I've practically given up on my long-held, mainly Western view that "whoever does anything sexually gay is gay". Oh, if these things were that simple.
Soraya's smiling candidness in sharing her personal preference pricked my curiosity enough to pry more from her.
"Are you saying that you actually meet Turkish guys who give up their booties to you willingly?"
Her blue pencil-lined, long-lashed sepia eyes lit up in eager playfulness as she thundered, "yes!".
"If you don't believe me, I'll show you what I mean".
I followed her to a corner in her cramped bedroom where an obviously well-used but discernibly outdated laptop sat on a small rectangular table opposite the bed. I have to say that that she is one of the few local transsexuals I know who is technologically adept and one who has learned to harness modern means for her purpose, namely to drum up a profitable interest in her marginalized persona and lifestyle.
She proceeded to log on and open her Craigslist folder. In it were several dozens of replies to her ad which bannered "Pegging Sue: for those man enough to take it".
Pegging - putting it simply for those not so au-courant with the ways of the world - is anal sex reversed. Or as the Urban Dictionary graphically describes it: “instead of the man sticking his penis up the woman's butt, the woman wears a strap on and sticks it up the man's butt.” Another entry: “when the tables are voluntarily turned on heterosexual anal intercourse and the female servicee becomes the servicer for the man.” Well, this is the heterosexual scenario.
What the usually updated source for meanings of modern throw-away words fails to include is that some men have actually resorted to getting it more naturally by getting poked with a real penis instead of a strap-on. And that's where female substitutes, like Soraya or Sue, come in.
Those who follow the writings of the syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage and Steve Weinstein of the Village Voice would have come across the word in several of their deliciously informative works last year. Then it seemed to have ripped open into the world's cultural sphincter - pun intended - with notable impact and thus has become a cocktail party conversation staple. Weinstein's VV article (http://www.villagevoice.com/2008-06-17/nyc-life/straight-men-get-it-in-the-end/ ), where he proclaimed that more hetero guys are discovering the joys of bending over, just about summarizes the media interest in the phenomenon.
Bending over. Going by Soraya's, er Pegging Sue's, eager would-be partners, the same disposition to reverse anal play remarked elsewhere is enthusiastically espoused by those from around here who think nothing of carrying on with chicks-with-dicks.
Here are some samplings of their emailed entreaties (translated from Turkish):
Orhan: Hi, I am interested in your ad but I live in Ankara. I would love to offer you my ass. Bring your tool here and I can accommodate you.
Sarkan: Hey, what's up? I'm 26. Would you like to ride my horse?
Adem: I live in Kadikoy/Istanbul. I am 32 years old sexy man. 1.82 tall. I think I am suitable for you and you won't be disappointed. I'm sure you have never tried a man like me.
Ali: I read your ad with great interest and excitement since it describes exactly what I've desired strongly for a long time.
This last one from Ismail embodies the very point of this article and since it was written in English, albeit fractured in most parts, I am serving it up verbatim (with some changes to camouflage the sender):
HEY BEAUTIFUL, GUZELIM
I am really good looking Turkish man who is living in USA and this Monday I am coming to Istanbul where is my hometown.
I don't know you are a Turkish girl or not but probably you are. Anyway, I am gonna write this in English.
Let me tell you this you are beautiful. You have great face and body and I liked it. I am good looking Turkish guy living Ohio state. I am working high professional level in Akron. I am a very laid back guy just like to have fun. However, I am in a relationship, but have a major attraction to beautiful woman WITH A LITTLE EXTRA. I don't get to satisfy my fantasies so I hope you are open to meeting with me for some discrete fun. I am looking for some excitements to have more variation to put my love life. All I want clean and crazy sex. I am open-minded straight guy who want good times with Cd-Ts girls sometimes. I came to this world once and I wanna have all experiences as much as I can get.
When asked if she did make it with these guys, Soraya flipped her long peroxide-blonde mane, gasped and giggled. Though she might be generally forthcoming about pegging, she'd be hard-pressed to kiss and tell.
Pegging Sue
Writer: Rene Ames
Some men just wanna have fun, it seems
However one is open-minded and accepting of anything in the wide spectrum of human sexology, there is always that exclamation-mark moment when one is confronted with certain predilections.
This was the case when a blossoming transsexual friend of mine revealed to me while serving tea in her damp, cluttered flat in central Beyoglu that she happens to be a top or the active one during sex and not, as one would associate the likes of her, as being on the receiving end of a partner's wanton lust.
This despite her outward feminine attributes, which obviously were brought about by a recently undergone requisite pre-operational stage of hormonal treatment and breast implants. And going by the exotic moniker of Soraya.
"Oh really?," I managed to squeal a suppressed incredulity. In a flash the revelation unhinged me not so much by its content - I thought I'd seen and heard all manners of kinks and quirks having lived in some of the world's biggest capitals - but by it being uncommon in the sexual scheme of things in these parts.
I have more-than-once mentioned here that due to the local social and religious constraints in the natural interactions between the sexes, some Turkish men often indulge in homosexual practices with nary an afterthought of labeling them as such but merely as some means to achieve sexual gratification. These are the popularly if discretely accepted notions of the "laco" and "lubunya" , the former being the active, usually straight-identifying partner and the latter, passive gays and those acting the female roles.
Having been part of the local GLBT scenes as observer and commentator for some time now, I have known this to be a fact of life hereabouts, to the point that I've practically given up on my long-held, mainly Western view that "whoever does anything sexually gay is gay". Oh, if these things were that simple.
Soraya's smiling candidness in sharing her personal preference pricked my curiosity enough to pry more from her.
"Are you saying that you actually meet Turkish guys who give up their booties to you willingly?"
Her blue pencil-lined, long-lashed sepia eyes lit up in eager playfulness as she thundered, "yes!".
"If you don't believe me, I'll show you what I mean".
I followed her to a corner in her cramped bedroom where an obviously well-used but discernibly outdated laptop sat on a small rectangular table opposite the bed. I have to say that that she is one of the few local transsexuals I know who is technologically adept and one who has learned to harness modern means for her purpose, namely to drum up a profitable interest in her marginalized persona and lifestyle.
She proceeded to log on and open her Craigslist folder. In it were several dozens of replies to her ad which bannered "Pegging Sue: for those man enough to take it".
Pegging - putting it simply for those not so au-courant with the ways of the world - is anal sex reversed. Or as the Urban Dictionary graphically describes it: “instead of the man sticking his penis up the woman's butt, the woman wears a strap on and sticks it up the man's butt.” Another entry: “when the tables are voluntarily turned on heterosexual anal intercourse and the female servicee becomes the servicer for the man.” Well, this is the heterosexual scenario.
What the usually updated source for meanings of modern throw-away words fails to include is that some men have actually resorted to getting it more naturally by getting poked with a real penis instead of a strap-on. And that's where female substitutes, like Soraya or Sue, come in.
Those who follow the writings of the syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage and Steve Weinstein of the Village Voice would have come across the word in several of their deliciously informative works last year. Then it seemed to have ripped open into the world's cultural sphincter - pun intended - with notable impact and thus has become a cocktail party conversation staple. Weinstein's VV article (http://www.villagevoice.com/2008-06-17/nyc-life/straight-men-get-it-in-the-end/ ), where he proclaimed that more hetero guys are discovering the joys of bending over, just about summarizes the media interest in the phenomenon.
Bending over. Going by Soraya's, er Pegging Sue's, eager would-be partners, the same disposition to reverse anal play remarked elsewhere is enthusiastically espoused by those from around here who think nothing of carrying on with chicks-with-dicks.
Here are some samplings of their emailed entreaties (translated from Turkish):
Orhan: Hi, I am interested in your ad but I live in Ankara. I would love to offer you my ass. Bring your tool here and I can accommodate you.
Sarkan: Hey, what's up? I'm 26. Would you like to ride my horse?
Adem: I live in Kadikoy/Istanbul. I am 32 years old sexy man. 1.82 tall. I think I am suitable for you and you won't be disappointed. I'm sure you have never tried a man like me.
Ali: I read your ad with great interest and excitement since it describes exactly what I've desired strongly for a long time.
This last one from Ismail embodies the very point of this article and since it was written in English, albeit fractured in most parts, I am serving it up verbatim (with some changes to camouflage the sender):
HEY BEAUTIFUL, GUZELIM
I am really good looking Turkish man who is living in USA and this Monday I am coming to Istanbul where is my hometown.
I don't know you are a Turkish girl or not but probably you are. Anyway, I am gonna write this in English.
Let me tell you this you are beautiful. You have great face and body and I liked it. I am good looking Turkish guy living Ohio state. I am working high professional level in Akron. I am a very laid back guy just like to have fun. However, I am in a relationship, but have a major attraction to beautiful woman WITH A LITTLE EXTRA. I don't get to satisfy my fantasies so I hope you are open to meeting with me for some discrete fun. I am looking for some excitements to have more variation to put my love life. All I want clean and crazy sex. I am open-minded straight guy who want good times with Cd-Ts girls sometimes. I came to this world once and I wanna have all experiences as much as I can get.
When asked if she did make it with these guys, Soraya flipped her long peroxide-blonde mane, gasped and giggled. Though she might be generally forthcoming about pegging, she'd be hard-pressed to kiss and tell.